💔The blessing of being REJECTED | Stoicism

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[Music] fear of rejection when you feel like everything has ended that’s when it’s just beginning Elbert Havard we’ve all been there heart racing eyes downcast face flushed Maria remembered that summer afternoon when with her heart in her hand she confessed her feelings to Juan but the response wasn’t what she expected I don’t feel the same way he said Maria’s World crumbled but why because a simple word can hold such power over us rejection that feeling of not being wanted or valued by someone we care about pierces us like a lance tears us apart makes us feel vulnerable and sometimes plunges us into deep introspection the human being by Nature seeks acceptance of and connection with others we are social beings and from ancient times being rejected could mean the difference between life and death in our modern era this still holds true stoic philosophy presents a different perspective imagine living in a reality where rejection doesn’t Define you where your worth isn’t dependent on external validation a perspective where rejection is seen not as a failure but as a blessing it may sound strange but to understand it we must delve into the world of stoicism and discover how this ancient philosophy can transform our relationship with rejection following this line of thought in the next few minutes we will embark on a journey through time and the mind uncovering the wisdom of the stoics and how to apply it in our daily lives I invite you to keep listening and discover why rejection far from being a curse can be a true blessing for you historical context stoicism and its key figures to understand how stoicism can change our perception of rejection we must first immerse ourselves in its roots and grasp its fundamentals imagine ancient Greece a world of gods Heroes and philosophers where a philosophy that would forever revolutionize human thought emerged stoicism was born in 300 BC in Athens under the teachings of Zeno of citium his philosophical school was named stoa poile which means painted porch where Zeno used to teach but what is stoicism really essentially it’s a philosophy that teaches us to accept life as it is recognizing that some things are beyond our control but emphasizing that we can always control how we react to them if we travel from Athens to Rome we encounter emblematic figures of stoicism who took its teachings to another level first we have senica an adviser to Emperor Nero through his letters and essays senica offers profound insights into human nature emphasizing the importance of living in harmony with nature and accepting both adversities and joys with equinity then there’s Marcus Aurelius a Roman Emperor and one of history’s most influential thinkers in his personal diary titled meditations he reflects on his most intimate thoughts about life death and living virtuously without being overcome by external circumstances and we can’t forget epic tetus a former slave who became a renowned stoic teacher epic tetus famously said it’s not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters these philosophers with their lives and teachings show us that regardless of our circumstances we always have the power to choose how to face life this mindset helps us view rejection not as a threat but as an opportunity before delving into how stoicism helps us confront rejection it’s essential to understand that this philosophy isn’t a set of rigid rules but rather a way of life a guide To Living with person purpose meaning and resilience the stoic perception of rejection every time we experience rejection it’s not the act itself that hurts us but how we interpret it this is a fundamental premise in stoicism if we could view a scene from above as if we were spectators in a play We would simply see one person saying no to another but in the mind of the rejected that no transforms into a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions am I not good enough what did I do wrong why don’t they want me epic tetus with his penetrating wisdom told us people are not disturbed by things but by the views they take of them from this perspective rejection like any other external event is essentially neutral it has no intrinsic positive or negative value it’s simply a fact a response the pain or joy we feel is the product of our interpretation consider a famous quote by Marcus Aurelius if you are distressed by anything external it’s not the thing itself that disturbs you but your judgment about it and it’s in your power to wipe out that Judgment at any moment what if instead of seeing rejection as a verdict on our worth we viewed it as a mere response a different perspective or even an opportunity for self-learning and growth senica in his letters presents a revolutionary idea the obstacle is the way the adversities are the test of strong Souls if we adopt this perspective rejection doesn’t become a barrier but a challenge an invitation to question our own judgments strengthen our resilience and find a deeper purpose in our lives there’s no doubt that changing our perception of rejection is a challenge but with the tools that stoicism provides we can transform this experience into a source of strength and wisdom in the next chapter we will discover exactly how to achieve this so you’ve encountered rejection the same rejection that PR repelled the success of Thomas Edison and JK Rowling an obstacle a wall a denial stands before you the challenge of rejection looms large but have you ever considered that behind that wall there might be treasure waiting to be discovered a world of possibilities learnings and strengths the stoics have a peculiar way of looking at the world where many see calamities they see training where most get discouraged stoics grow stronger it’s this perception that allows them to face adversity with equinity and courage and yes that includes the dreaded rejection think about the act of lifting weights what are you really doing you’re subjecting your body to resistance to an obstacle but with each lift your muscles break down and then regenerate becoming stronger rejection seen through this lens becomes that resistance that if faced properly can strengthen our character and resilience if you still have doubts consider the lives of great historical figures who faced rejection in ways most of us couldn’t imagine take for example Thomas Edison the inventor of the phonograph and the electric light bulb it said he failed over a thousand times before creating a working light bulb each time he faced failure rejection of his ideas and prototypes he didn’t give up instead he saw it as an opportunity to learn and improve Edison himself said I have not failed I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work another inspiring story is that of JK Rowling the author of The globally famous Harry Potter series after facing multiple rejections from Publishers who didn’t see potential in her manuscript she finally found one that did but what if Rowling had let those rejections Define her worth as a writer both stories show how rejection far from being an end can be the beginning of something extraordinary rejection can be the Catalyst that propels us towards success as long as we know how to approach it this is where stoic wisdom shines brightest instead of avoiding Rejection it invites us to face it challenge it and engage in a dialogue with it because in that dialogue we find the keys to unravel its lessons and grow as individuals so the next time you find yourself facing a no think of Edison think of Rowling think of all those who saw in that no and not yet or are find another way rejection is not the end it’s the beginning of a new adventure are you ready to embark on it how to handle rejection stoic tools for everyday life what would you do if you had a tool that allowed you to face any challenge with Serenity if you could look adversity in the eye and say I’m listening welcome to the stoic toolkit for handling rejection first let’s explore the dichotomy of control this concept proposed by the stoic philosopher epicus invites us to divide the world into two categories what is within our control and what is not now think about rejection can you control how someone feels or thinks about you the answer is no but can you control how you react to that rejection absolutely this distinction frees us from the burden of trying to manipulate the external world and empowers us to work on our internal World on our response when we Face a no instead of asking why we were rejected we should ask what we can learn from it now let’s take it a step further stoics practice something called indifference no it’s not ignoring your emotions or pretending they don’t exist it’s about not being Carried Away by them imagine your emotions are like the wind they can blow strongly but you like a sturdy tree remain steadfast letting the wind pass through your leaves without uprooting you temporary emotions like pain or frustration in the face of rejection are that wind acknowledge their presence but don’t let them knock you down after any experience of rejection it’s essential to perform self analysis not to blame yourself or find faults but to understand and learn question your emotions and responses why did you feel what you felt is there an underlying belief influencing your reaction by doing this you’re opening a conversation with your inner self finding areas for growth and adjusting your perspective finally let’s talk about practical exercises I propose two challenges you can start implementing today the stoic Journal challenge every night spend 5 minutes reflecting on your day was there any rejection or challenge how did you react what did you learn this daily practice will help you become an observer of your emotions and behaviors giving you Clarity and self-awareness the rejection confrontation challenge over the next week face something you fear it could be something small like asking for a discount in a store or something more significant the goal is not to get a yes but to confront the fear of rejection and learn from the experience in conclusion rejection is just one of life’s many facets we can’t avoid it but we can choose how to face it with stoic Tools in your tool kit rejection can change from a terrifying monster into a kind teacher always ready to teach and guide you toward a stronger wiser version of yourself now imagine how empowering it can be to face any Challenge from the sub rejection to the most significant obstacles armed with stoic wisdom we are prepared not only to survive but to thrive benefits of rejection from a stoic mindset sometimes the universe has mysterious ways of teaching us rejection despite being perceived as a cold and desolate Shadow can actually be one of our greatest allies allow me to show you how when we are rejected our character is tested much like metal is forged with fire and hammered to gain strength similarly our character is reinforced when we Face rejection and choose to learn from it instead of crumbling here lies the first benefit the strengthening of our resilience and character imagine becoming a person who grows stronger wiser and better prepared for future challenges with every know received it’s like turning every obstacle into a stepping stone to a superior version of yourself but what if that rejection were actually a sign a sign telling you that there might be another better path aligned with your purpose and goals here we come to the second benefit rejection gives us the opportunity to re-evaluate and adjust our paths instead of seeing it as a closed door we could view it as a signpost saying not here but something better awaits you perhaps that job you didn’t get will lead you to discover a passion you didn’t know existed maybe that know in a relationship will guide you toward a deeper and more meaningful connection with someone else or even more importantly with yourself speaking of deep connections we come to the third benefit the fostering of self-awareness and self-improvement when facing rejection we are forced to look in the mirror to question our beliefs actions and desires it’s a call to introspection why did that comment hurt so much what part of me feels insecure what values are genuinely important to me through these questions we not only discover who we truly are but also how we can grow and develop in this journey through stoic wisdom we’ve discovered that rejection is not a monster but rather a teacher a guide an ally like any good teacher it’s not here to punish you but to show you the way to a more fulfilling meaningful and connected life now armed with this new perspective I invite you dear listener to look at rejection with fresh eyes consider that experience not as a punishment but as a disguised blessing a gift that if accepted with wisdom and courage can take you to unsuspected corners of self-discovery and growth conclusion embracing a stoic view of life’s challenges we’ve sailed through the waters of stoicism discovering how this ancient philosophy can illuminate our path today we’ve understood that beyond the momentary pain it may bring rejection is a silent teacher that invites us to grow strengthen our character and re-evaluate our life’s Roots rejection seen through the stoic lens is not a sentence but an opportunity I invite you dear listener that the next time you face rejection look at it with A New Perspective consider that experience not as a punishment but as a disguised blessing a gift that if accepted with wisdom and courage can lead you to Uncharted territories of self-discovery and growth and as you continue on your personal journey I encourage you to keep exploring and adopting stoic principles in your daily life because at the end of the day every challenge every know every obstacle can be the fuel you need to ignite the flame of your Evolution and self-transcendence so with an open heart and mind face each day as a new opportunity a new chapter where you can be the author of your own story Guided by the Timeless wisdom of the stoics if you’ve made it this far first allow me to deeply thank you for your time and attention to this video before you go please subscribe to the channel if you haven’t already here are two more videos that might interest you take care and see you soon [Music]



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