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[Music] it is a fact that there is no such thing as an ugly man all you need to do is figure out what appeals to women ladies enjoy single guys so listen up indeed research from the psychology department at Harvard University supports this is it truly your goal to win her heart would you like to make yourself enticing to her why not date someone get in shape and develop a killer look and blazing confidence that might work but is there another option is there not a simpler and better method indeed there is so stay tuned until the very end and I’ll reveal to you the 10 qualities in a man that women find irresistible before we begin I would appreciate it if you like the video you can help me continue spreading the stoic philosophy if you are not subscribed I recommend you subscribe and activate the Bell to avoid missing any videos if you like the topic of this video please comment with a number one if you don’t please comment with a number two to let me know so I can make better videos in the future number one intelligence some women blush and talk to men for hours on end this is most likely what you saw in a cafe she is undoubtedly speaking with a knowledgeable man who is well prepared for her questions men who can provoke thoughtful introspective thought in women pique their interest she will commit to a long-term relationship with the man who can Peak her interest and satisfy her curiosity men who are not only smarter than them but also more creative than the average Joe Captivate women learning new things and reading a lot are great advantages in the game of Attraction intelligence plays a significant role whether it be in fiction reality or literature number two Independence men who are self-reliant are like beasts they will act and speak however they please it’s not necessary to have a crutch or someone hold their hand now that these guys are in charge of their lives the girls want to have that same level of authority over them women are often enthralled with Independence because it demonstrates a man’s problemsolving abilities it also demonstrates emotional steadiness believe me when I say that a whiny attitude turns off women just as much as Independence does in a society that promotes vulnerability among men true men recognize the importance of consistency Never Surrender Your Independence in favor of vulnerability number three manners are you one of those guys who maintains the romance after she gives in if that’s how you want to be that gentle romantically youthful at heart or are you the kind that gives up trying as soon as they taste something you have to continue stoking those flames and remain youthful at heart arrange thoughtful outings give her a surprise bouquet treat her like a queen send her emotional letters or simply tell her how much you appreciate her on a regular basis we’re all aware that men woo women by Instinct but once you’ve got her what do you do that will decide whether or not she wants to live a lifetime with you number four generosity generosity typically demonstrates a man’s concern for others in addition to him himself you will therefore occasionally need to open your wallet if you want a woman to open up to you but exercise caution you need to be modest about it if you don’t want to attract attention from gold diggers you don’t want to appear foolish by doing too much or stingy by doing too little in case you were wondering how effective generosity is when it comes to dating a study was done on the subject by the National University of Santa Fe it’s interesting that they found that independent of their physical attributes women found men most attractive when they were showing generosity and charity so guys generosity makes you more attractive to a woman than your look number five lacking social awareness breaking nobody the world doesn’t center around you it’s time to come out of your shell and begin observing your surroundings you’re losing out on a ton of connections if you’re too preoccupied with yourself it’s a clear indication of social stupidity when someone dominates every conversation or ignores their cues to end it men who can hold their own in social situations tend to attract girls this entails speaking less and listening more as well as recognizing non-verbal clues and knowing when to back off nobody enjoys a bulldozer of a conversation or someone who can’t read a room number six lack of ambition let’s face it you won’t attract girls if you’re aimlessly coasting through life with no goals or aspirations a man who lacks a distinct purpose in life is well boring and lacking in Direction make sure you have a genuine passion project hobby or career path that you are excited about that attracts people in the same way as a magnet men who are ambitious have goals and aspirations and actively work to make them a reality tend to attract women it’s about having the desire to do more not about having everything worked out so stop doing nothing and start working toward what truly ignites your soul trust me your newfound ambition will turn heads in ways that you never imagined number seven uninspiring conversations it’s understandable why you’re not making progress if all you can think of when having a conversation is small talk and corny lines a world full of meaningless chatter and small talk is a world devoid of meaningful conversations consider the following situation you walk up to a woman introduce yourself and a few minutes later you’re both deeply into an interesting conversation you’re sincerely interested in her opinions and experiences and the talk just seems to flow compare that with the mundane script of hey nice weather we’re having huh or well hey how’s your day come on dude women are drawn to men who can stimulate their minds challenge their perspectives and Spark their curiosity if your conventional conversational toolkit consists of the same tired lines and topics no wonder girls aren’t looking your way number eight don’t ignore her boundaries you would be foolish to step over a woman’s limits it’s pitiful in addition to being disrespectful a true man knows when to assert himself and when to back off you have to trust me when I say that disobeying a woman’s boundaries is not a sign of strength or authority it’s a neon sign that flashes screaming desperation and insecurity you stop if she says no or to stop that’s it nothing more no debates no ifs say nothing just oh okay it makes no difference if you’re having a date a conversation or even a private moment you honor her boundaries when they are established a man who lacks respect for a woman’s autonomy will never attract a woman but here’s the catch respecting boundaries doesn’t mean you become a doormat you need to respect and understand her personal space without feeling like it’s all about you it’s not this isn’t a gray area my guy it’s black and white and trust me if you can’t understand this you’re no man number nine show genuine interest in her okay moving on to the following one what actually makes a woman feel attracted to you genuine interest not the fake kind where you pretend to be interested in her while secretly plotting your next move with her after dark I mean genuine engrossing profound interest in her as a person inquire about her interests goals and ideas don’t merely follow the procedures take a moment please to hear what she has to say ensure she feels heard seen and appreciated believe me nothing makes a woman feel more attracted to a man than when he gives her the impression that she is the only person in the room these are rules not just suggestions breaking them indicates that that you are out of the game not that you have struck out thus you can choose to abide by them or to continue acting as though you’re a gift from God to women but it’s time to look in the mirror at yourself it has been said before and will be said again First Impressions count and those first few seconds can make or break your ability to attract women it’s not about trying too hard or playing games you see it involves adopting a set of characteristics that function as a dating equivalent of a secret weapon I mean the kind of traits that instantly cause women to sit up and take notice when they meet you feel free to follow my channel so you won’t miss any videos in the future epicus the great stoic philosopher said that the goal is to surround yourself with people who pull you up and inspire you to be your best you’ve undoubtedly heard the expression you are the average of The Five People You spend the most time with today we’ll look at that concept through a stoic lens before we begin we will explore the seven categories of people that might impede your development in stoic philosophy and how to negotiate these difficult situations I’d love it if you could get the video so you can help me to spread the stoic philosophy if you are not already subscribed I encourage that you do so and activate the Bell so that you do not miss any videos number one the victim consider life to be a game of chess with each player having the same pieces is in the same aim the opponent’s king is checkmated you plan ahead of time make some sacrifices and take some chances the victim on the other hand blames the board the pieces or even their opponent for every bad move they make they’re always in Checkmate not as a result of their choices but as a result of an outside power acting against them their story is a never-ending tale of adversity with themselves is the powerless protagonist I can’t advance in my career because my employer dislikes me or I can’t get in shape because I have poor genetics now it is critical to recognize that some people experience actual challenges as well as systemic issues however the victim in question utilizes their situation as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for their actions or lack thereof you can become inmed in their plot possibly as a supporting character who is always needed to save them assume you’ve spent numerous hours listening to a buddy blame their NeverEnding line of unsuccessful relationships only on their ex Partners this not only wastes your time but it may also subtly persuade you to adopt a victim perspective in your own life so how do you proceed when dealing with a victim it may be tempting to become their rescuer providing unending guidance and emotional support but the stoics would would advise against it they would advise you to set a clear boundary to preserve your mental health you might use a technique called compassionate Detachment show empathy and kindness but don’t try to save them they must handle their own difficulties provide a listening ear but avoid being their continuous problem solution Marcus aelius famously remarked that the finest retribution is to be unlike the one who committed the injustice if you find yourself drawn into the victim’s narrative fight the impulse to become one yourself instead take charge of your own game board make your moves and remember that being permanently in Checkmate is frequently a choice not a fate in the chess game of life keep your pieces going ahead make strategic sacrifices when required and play for development and knowledge rather than Vengeance or pity number two the drama magnet consider your life to be a ship cruising over Peaceful Waters until you come across the vortex known as the drama magnet this person appears to have an endless succession of Crisis disputes or controversies and they have a disconcerting capacity to drag you into their Vortex of instability you could be drawn to the intensity of the drama magnets at first mistaking it for passion or excitement however you’ll quickly find that being in their realms is taxing and risky much like piloting a ship through a storm what makes working with drama magnets so difficult is that their problems frequently feel like your own their Anarchy is contagious you can even find yourself engaged in disputes in which you have no prior involvement consider the following scenario you have a buddy that frequently clashes with other people in your social group they’re not talking to Kate today Mario will be next your buddy seeks your help but you see that this cycle never stops and you find yourself at odds with Kate or Mario because you attempted to interfere in this scenario instead of providing advice or choosing sides try introspective listening and echoing their thoughts back to them for example if they remark I can’t believe Kate said that about me you may react so Kate’s words have betrayed me this strategy enables you to offer emotional support without becoming involved in the drama yourself another strategy which may appear paradoxical is to become selectively unavailable stoicism teaches us to value our time which sometimes means being unavailable for other people’s problems especially if they reoccur without resolution turn off your phone during specific hours set out time to focus completely on your job or personal growth and make it clear that you are not to be interrupted during these times senica true pleasure comes from enjoying the current moment without worrying about the future this is very useful when dealing with drama magnets instead of worrying about the next catastrophe focus on the current moment where you have control enjoy your life and don’t allow it be disturbed by someone else’s drama make a point of sailing your ship peacefully avoiding whirlpools that jeopardize your journey to personal progress and calmness number three the complainer we’ve all got that friend family member or coworker that always finds something wrong with everything whether it’s the weather their job or even the cuisine at a renowned restaurant they never pass up a chance to show their displeasure you may be wondering why this matters to me I can simply disregard them that however is easier said than done consistent exposure to such negativity drains your mental well-being it’s like a leaky faucet gradually emptying your store of emotional Vitality stoicism instructs us to focus on practical Solutions rather than issues consider the following scenario you’re working on a project with someone who is often complaining each meeting devolves into a tiring round of complaints with little useful discourse as the team’s morale deteriorates you get distracted from discovering practical answers and you may become progressively disgusted with the project and potentially with life in general so how can stoicism assist us in dealing with a complainer there are numerous approaches you may take first restrict your contact with this person whenever possible if that isn’t possible maybe because they are a family member or cooworker your second choice is to mentally detach yourself from them during their rants consider their criticisms to be a passing storm noisy and disturbing but ultimately insignificant in comparison to the immovable Mountain that is your own inner peace your third option is to redirect the conversation or change the subject to something more constructive Marcus Aurelius you control your thoughts not external events when you realize this you will disc cover strength this Timeless stoic wisdom urges us to vigilantly defend our mental Serenity ensuring that the negativity of chronic complainers does not distract us from our stoic path of perseverance and virtue number four the naysayer consider yourself an artist working on a canvas each brush stroke enhances the color depth and vibrancy of your vision enter the skeptic they go into your Studio take a look at your work and instantly start criticizing it are you certain about the Hue that doesn’t appear realistic you already know that most artists never get it perfect their remarks like gray paint Strokes begin to diminish your colorful canvas this isn’t your typical constructive critique however it may be useful instead it’s a continuous Aura of skepticism and hostility assume you’re enthusiastic about exploring a new job path you’ve done your homework spoken with industry experts and perhaps even attended a few basic courses when you express your excitement with the Skeptics they rapidly list all the reasons why it won’t work the market is overcrowded do you have the necessary skills what if you fail too soon their uncertainties begin to feel like your own and The Confident your eyesight is beginning to sway how do you deal with a skeptic especially if they are close to you rather than simply presenting your objectives or aspirations one uncommon yet successful technique is to ask them for advice people in advisory roles are less likely to oppose your ideas directly and may provide more useful comments instead of absorbing their negativity another option includes changing the script through a technique known as positive confrontation encourage them to come up with Solutions if they suggest you’ll never be able to change occupations at this point respond with an intriguing Viewpoint how do you believe someone could effectively change careers this not only deflects criticism but also stimulates more positive discourse remember the teachings of epicus the stoic philosopher because we have two ears and one mouth we can listen twice as much as we can talk listening does not imply taking in everyone’s criticism it entails distinguishing useful input from noise take a step back listen think and continue painting your own life with the colors that speak to you when the doubters begin to obscure your canvas with their shades of Doubt don’t allow anyone transform your colorful creation into a monotonous gray landscape number five the time Vampire consider your everyday routine to be a well-crafted Symphony when each instrument symbolizes a work or responsibility they form a wonderful balance until the time Vampire joins in shrieking Off Pitch drowning out your song and converting your beautiful Masterpiece into discordant cacophony vampires are not always evil in fact they may appear rather benign it could be a coworker who constantly interrupts you with trivial questions transforming your productive workday into a series of fragmented moments or it could be a friend who invites you to countless social events that you don’t want to attend making you feel obligated to attend and draining your time and energy these interactions may appear little in the moment but the cumulative effect may be tremendously disruptive so how can you prevent a Time vampire from ruining your Symphony the Pomodoro Technique a time management tool that includes splitting your work into 25-minute segments typically separated by brief breaks is one effective option you make it plain that you are not to be bothered during certain intervals this creates a barrier that prevents your most productive periods from getting eaten away if you are dealing with a social time Vampire remember that saying no is not just acceptable it is necessary for your well-being instead of detailed explanations a simple I appreciate the invit ation but I can’t make it would work according to senica refusing an invitation is a confirmation of your own needs and priorities not a rejection of the individual life if lived well is long enough stoicism emphasizes that time is one of our most valuable resources and it should be used carefully it’s the canvas on which we paint the portrait of our life and we should be very picky about who and what gets a brush stroke make sure that each note instrument and Melody in your life’s big Masterpiece coincide with your greater purpose don’t let a Time vampire’s cacophonous incursion disrupt your Symphony as we approach the conclusion of today’s examination of the characters who might derail our road toward stoic resilience and wisdom hold the Baton firmly and conduct your life with purpose ensuring that every moment is a note beautifully played in your harmonic Masterpiece number six the toxic positivist when you’re going through a difficult time they’re the ones that encourage you to Simply Be cheerful dismissing your sentiments and experiences with a flippant wave of sparkly optimism consider your life to be a garden flowers are present but so are weeds and bugs a poisonous positivist on the other hand refuses to see anything that isn’t a budding Roose aphids will appear on your leaves just concentrate on the flowers they tell you not to bring negativity into your garden while it may appear to be encouraging their approach may leave you feeling rejected and removed from reality you’re upset bewildered and looking for emotional balance if you’re going through a difficult breakup the advice of the toxic positivist the water is teeming with fish simply grin and be happy excessive optimism ignores the intricacies of human emotion and the realities of life’s obstacles how can you grow your garden without allowing poisonous positivists to trample it with their indiscriminate sprinkling of Positive Vibes the only option is to engage them in a conversation that includes both light and shade look on the bright side they say and you have your health yes I’m glad for my health but it’s also fair for me to be furious ious about this particular situation both are compatible you may also use what psychologists refer to as emotional granularity which is the capacity to feel and distinguish between a wide spectrum of emotions both good and negative because of X I’m feeling a little down today which is okay referencing stoic thinking may be a freeing confirmation senica once remarked that genuine pleasure is understanding our duty to God and man and enjoying the now without worrying about the future take note of the balance between comprehending unpleasant obligations and enjoying the moment a stoic attitude does not focus only on the good or bad rather it Embraces life’s complexities with Serenity so the next time a poisonous positivist dumps confetti on your well-kept garden take a step back and realize that a garden requires both sunlight and Rain to thrive accept your entire emotional range and continue to nurture your garden with the richness and complexity it deserves number seven the manipulator consider your life to be a script for a movie you’re the main character and you have an idea of how your narrative should play out where the twists will come from who your allies and mentors will be and what your final Act will look like enter the manipulator the Shady producer who quietly rewrites your script without your knowledge until one day you discover your tale has deviated from its original path the manipulator is an expert in emotional or psychological manipulation they may use flattery guilt trips or even deception to guide you in a path that favors them you could have a buddy who constantly gets you to pay for dinner by saying something like you know I’ve been having a rough month and you’re so successful it wouldn’t mean much to you but would make my day better over time you realize that your generosity has been used but calling them out seems awkward since they frame it as a favor to a friend in need handling a manipulator may be difficult fogging is a technique used by certain Specialists to oppose their techniques this strategy entails accepting any truth in the manipulator’s assertions but refusing to be affected by emotional persuasion you may react if they claim you’re so successful you should pay for supper you are right that I have been performing well but let us share the bill as usual another strategy is to establish and enforce defined limits if the manipulator asks you to lend them money or commit to duties that you don’t want to do learn to say no assertively maintain a cool tone and straightforward communication I can’t lend money but I can offer emotional assistance that maintains the connection while setting a limit borrowing inspiration from stoic ideas epicas cautioned us that while we cannot control our external circumstances we can always control how we respond to them the manipulator profits from your predicted emotions they use your generosity remorse or need for acceptance by responding differently you reclaim control of your script so if you come across a manipulator in your life remember that you’re the one with the pen your story line is yours to write and while the cast may include a variety of characters your journey should always be guided by your own values and decisions reclaim your script and don’t allow anyone change the course of your life let us not Overlook the importance of self-awareness it’s simple to spot these Personalities in others but the more difficult and instructive challenge is to look for them them in yourself are you accidentally performing one of these roles in the life of someone else remember that stoicism is about more than simply managing the environment it is also about knowing and developing oneself if today’s debate prompted a discovery an epiphany or even just some 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