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chris evans is incredibly charming he’s an interesting combination of kind funny and humble so people really come up to you and say wait a second oh yeah i’ve accepted the fact that i’m a huge physical disappointment in reality that’s just the way my life is so in this video we’ll go through four habits you can steal from chris that will help you to be charming in any conversation and because chris’s charisma is so nice we’ll also go over a few nuances around flirting so you can create attraction as more than just a friend let’s start with a couple of chris’s body language tricks the first is to speak through a smile this is a simple yet powerful way to influence how people perceive you here’s a quick example where chris gets asked about a super bowl after party do you meet tom did you get to touch him because i know you said last time you were there you said you didn’t oh no i have yet to meet him he didn’t go to the other i mean he might have made an appearance but he you know cut out he had to go rule the world uh i i didn’t meet tom the key to a genuine smile is to smile with your eyes when speaking through a smile you’ll likely notice a natural uptick in energy and movement as well here’s another example where chris is reacting to his avengers clip on seth meyers notice when seth and the audience laugh chris’s words aren’t especially funny but he primes them with his smile eyes and tone all right that’s i don’t know much about it i mean i i have one line in the clip like typically when you come to a thing like this you bring something to showcase whatever yeah but they they sent me the clip and i was like is this what i’m bringing when people first try to build this habit they make a common mistake of thinking you have to speak through a smile all the time but the charm comes from being emotionally expressive not from plastering a smile on 24 7. for example watch chris talk about avengers end game and notice how he starts serious before ending by speaking through a smile the the secret the the scripts are so uh lock and key um but they had given me the scene where where i passed the shield to mackie oh it’s so nice to be able to say that it doesn’t have to be it’s like therapy i want you to lay down on the couch just be honest talk about the marvel of secrets some people worry that their smile will come off as fake and that’s a great point to consider while speaking through a genuine smile instantly makes you more charming if the smile seems fake it’ll have the opposite effect so don’t try to put your biggest grin on for every conversation instead try to guide the conversation to things that genuinely make you smile or laugh the second body language trick you can steal from chris is to own the space around you the most basic way to do this is to use your hands when you speak and chris is fantastic at this but beyond that chris does something you can steal to be charming even when you’re not the one speaking he takes up space when he laughs here’s an example during an avengers interview hearing the end of your contract and a lot of people are actually legitimately concerned and they want to hear what he could possibly just back to cleaning breast pumps um if you watch most people in social situations they look very spatially constrained it’s like they have an invisible box around them that they’re scared to cross over this subconsciously communicates to other people that you’re nervous to draw attention to yourself which instantly hurts how confident and attractive you look this doesn’t mean you have to man spread to assert dominance or anything weird like that this simple act of taking up space when you laugh by throwing your head back or putting your hand on someone’s shoulder is enough to show you’re comfortable owning the space around you here’s another quick example you bring new aspects to him and with with captain america it’s like as we’ve seen [Laughter] here’s one more quick example notice the leg touch and side lean and then you know we see captain america evolving into his leadership role but we also see you evolving like more and more as we see more on screen owning the role right in all three clips you also saw chris gives a small tagging touch to the person who made him laugh these little platonic touches on the leg or arm are great in almost any situation they’re especially important in flirting because they let you calibrate your touch if someone isn’t comfortable with a touch on the shoulder you know they won’t be comfortable with you leaning in for a kiss in addition to gauging comfort levels going from a shoulder touch to a knee touch to an arm around the shoulder while you walk is an easy way to build increased physical comfort with someone this is nice because even if a date went really well it can feel awkward to lean in for a kiss if you spent the entire date with an invisible force field separating you one side note about laughter in general and specifically when flirting don’t try to force a big laugh at everything the person says one of the cringiest flirting mistakes is to pretend that everything someone says is hilarious or fascinating that fakeness will be a big turn off to most people how did that happen because it’s cold out yes yes this spit nipply out i mean nippy out what did i say nipple there is a nip in the air though okay so now let’s talk about what to say whether you’re flirting or just having a conversation with a potential friend most people have one of two strategies one is to tease the other person and give them a hard time hoping to make them laugh the other is to be kind and complimentary all the time hoping to make them feel good the problem that most people run into is that if you only tease you can come off as a jerk or even just someone trying too hard to entertain people and if you’re nothing but kind you run the risk of being boring or in the case of flirting being put in the friend zone what’s unique about chris is that he’s comfortable bouncing back and forth between kind compliments and playful teases this is often referred to as push pull here’s two quick clips so you can see how chris balances the two in the first he’s playing a game where he’s meant to guess which avengers cast member the photo is of what you got hemsworth [Music] in this next clip chris is talking about which other famous chris’s he gets confused for in public no i get proud i get i never get hurt which is really upsetting please think i’m hemsworth please look at that chris hemsworth is great at push-pull as well watch him go back and forth in this next clip while talking about captain america what is it you like about him just the fact that it’s kind of boring and predictable he’s just kind of i just wanted to hurt you i love you by the way he’s my favorite character by bouncing between the two instead of just doing one or the other you make yourself less predictable which makes you more fun to talk to you basically get the upside of both strategies and the downside of neither it also makes you more attractive especially if the person you’re flirting with is someone who’s used to people only pulling on them with a lot of compliments or flattery those are the people who are most likely to enjoy being playfully teased but like everything else calibrate this to the individual person also since chris and chris are just platonic friends here are a few examples of more flirtatious push-pull do you like this one i really like the dress for you no it’s really very very sexy it’s got a kind of coarsity feel and then is that a oh it’s a microphone all right rosemarie’s pizza do you go there no i don’t i don’t where do we go i have a gluten allergy so i can’t really eat you have a gluten allergy that’s so unusual to hear from an actress no it’s for real freaking me out i’m putting spells on you yeah you’ve already done that you did that when you did the knee that’s right you see me move back like that yeah yeah crawling away no distance is hurting me no it’s listen it has to be fair enough no no i’ll just lean i i thought you were very sexy the first time i came on i did and then i found out you were sober and i was like oh forget the it thing we’ll touch on is a mindset that will help you to make a better impression and feel more confident in conversation whether talking to a friend boss or person they’re attracted to most people try to present themselves as perfectly as they can and hide their flaws because of this they become nervous about how they are being perceived by contrast watch chris talk about his past work do you ever find yourself in a situation where you have to go ask people to come see a movie that you don’t like well yeah if anyone yeah i mean if you you can look at my mdb page to know that that’s rather than being nervous about how he’s perceived as an actor chris just owns the fact that he’s been in some bad movies here’s another quick example of him talking about skydiving when i was when i was i did it once when i was 20 and it was great you don’t think twice and you land and you’re like i can’t wait to do it again and this time i i was terrified i was really scared the whole time and the second i landed i was like great never again admitting to being scared is something most men would try to avoid because they think it makes them seem weak or not masculine ironically it’s by being willing to laugh at yourself for your mistakes or fears that you show true confidence it shows you’re centered in yourself and unworried about other people judging you in this next clip you can see in real time the impact of chris being honest about an emotion most men would try to hide three two one oh as soon as chris laughs and admits he panicked he gets a big laugh from the crew by laughing you show that this thing that would bother most people has no power over you now whether you want to be charming because you’re looking for a new mentor more friends or more 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  1. Pre preamble:
    Eyes glint 👀
    – Push/pull
    Strength introducing: pull
    – speak through smile and eyes

    Appreciate you fame 👊✊ 😊
    – it happens(name and claim)

  2. Just as with Emilia Clarke, and notice this with charming charismatic people around you, it’s a WHOLE BODY thing. You mention owning the space around you which is important, but it’s also that the laughter comes from the entire body, not just the face. The whole body reels backwards and then towards the person they are speaking to. THE WHOLE ENTIRE PERSON IS LAUGHING.

    I think people should practice laughing with their whole bodies. Laughter is much more natural that way and hence, more engaging.

  3. You know what dude. He wasn't born that attractive. And he wasn't born with that attitude. He was a blithering slobbering butt ugly baby like the rest of us with average genetics and he developed his looks and charisma by being around and about great characters and practices and that got him his job as a movie star. People are here wining about his status when this video is clearly laying out how he got a chance at his status.

  4. I generally really like Chris (even though he sometimes comes across as a bit performative überwoke, which can be a bit cringy lol), his laughter often seems fake to me, haha. It's okay tho, most of us do that from time to time and I still think he's a really cool guy, but yeah, I'm not sure his laugh is the best example for authenticity 😂

  5. The best video of the channel. Sadly, It is also the hardest. The truth is Chris Evans character has all an ideal personality that each aspect is used at average rate. Never too much of anything. All other characters I met in this channel and around still are over rate sometimes. The ultimate definition of a perfect human being is that. I really like to be more like him but first I'm a girl and introvert. Hope someone give me advice @charismaoncommand

  6. i saw girl working at a coffee shop , i walk up to her i ask what her name is, she tells me, i ask what type of muffins she has she tells me. I say what puts a smile on your face? She says what? I say what are in the brownies? She says what puts a smile on my face? I say for me it's when i come home my dog runs up to me jumps into my arms. What about you? She tells me what's in the brownies. Did i impress her? She caught the line but then i change the subject was that good flirt technique?

  7. Talking about people being charismatic by showing their ways, is not a right way of teaching someone to be charismatic. I reckon everyone should practice their own style and stop adopting others because it would look fake.

  8. When I taught piano one thing I really loved about my Chinese students is how they would laugh at themselves when they messed something up (in one of their piano pieces) during the lesson. It was so charming and made things fun.